Me being silly on a plane and loving my Pinky’s.
Thanking you and appreciating you all alot.
XO, Laura
You get to have it all.
And like wise Leah came to see in her blog post at www.NoDietingAllowed.com, “she has arrived”.
Those of us who choose to be awake and feeling our feelings through this adventure called life “have arrived as well”.
Some OnePinky.com wisdom
Body Image Mastery is about health, physically, emotional and spiritual health are what I am after for all women.
You get to have it all.
Consider putting your perfectionist to a long sleep starting right now.
There is no thing as perfection. Imperfect is perfect. Imperfection is the new black. (A nice new outfit for 2010)
Accept you as you are now.
How can you change something you are at war with?
If your mind collapses that last statement as a sign of resignation…or your mind says that accepting yourself means that you cannot change, it is just not true.
You are changing in every moment and are capable of bigger changes at any age and any size.
The issues are in our tissues and if you do the inner work, your body will take care of itself and you will feel more inspired to be in balance with food and the scale.
Again, how can you change your body when you are at war with it?
Our differences are an opportunity to celebrate who we are…we are different precisely in order to realize our needs of one another.
Nothing is too much trouble for LOVE.
Our journey of self discovery is a journey in patience and what we offer here at OnePinky.com is a process, not a pill.
Happiness and Joy are a choice and they do require some effort at times. I welcome the effort for Happy, Joyful and Free.
What do I know for sure?
That I love people, all people. I am looking to attract more women to my work who are ready for permanent change, for a new story, a new conversation. I want to live in a world where women’s health is a huge priority and that when women look at themselves in the mirror they see beauty at all sizes.
The old story is go on a diet, feel deprived, hate the process and go off the diet and then hate yourself for not having will power and strength.
The new story, the new practice is to feel the feelings that got you to this place, process them and in release them. I promise you change will occur effortlessly.
Your body is a healing machine and will take care of itself. Reduce your mind space in terms of self criticism and see what happens.
What would your life be like if you said NO to New Year’s resolutions this year and said YES to New year’s Intentions?
Ask yourself this question.
What is my most important, significant intention for 2010?
Please take out a pen and paper and in this moment, write down the most significant thing you want to draw into your life this new year and say it out loud five times.
I intend to ___________________ in 2010 and I release this to the Universe with Love.
Universe, show me the path to get there.
Now pick a day, the same day every month and check in with your intention and see how you are progressing. Keep doing this until you have reached this intention. I know you will get there if you keep this practice alive every month, sooner than you think.
Affirm:
I have a divine right to be me, exactly as I am because I am made in the image and likeness of God. I am certain that deep within me there is a knower that knows. I trust that I am created perfectly as I am. This holiday season I am authentic, loving and generous because THAT is who I am!
Happy Holidays and Happy New Year to you all.
May the Universe grant you all your heart’s desires in 2010.
2010 can be your year of letting go, releasing and living WHO you are.
I bless you all with the courage to be YOU.
May you BE LOVE and feel INNER PEACE in every moment.
I decree that 2010 shall be your best year ever.
I love you, that too I know for sure, XO
Laura
There are many people out there who have still not found a way, a path and for those people, I pray every day, hoping they are guided to someone or something to help them. The thing about being awake is that you get to see that there is always another step to take and a hand to hold. You are never alone while at the same time feel very comfortable in your body being alone. Being awake is a gift and I have many people ask me, “what do I say to someone who needs help and cannot ask for it?”
Have you ever thought, “Why didn’t someone tell me?” and wondered why a friend or loved one didn’t quietly take you aside and offer you advice or say the difficult truth when you were about to make a terrible mistake? Have you looked back at a time in your life when you were running head-on into a train wreck – and realizing that no one tried to stop you, thought to yourself, “If someone had just said something to me, maybe I could have avoided that?” It is important to reflect on these moments in life so that we can be ready when the situation is reversed – when it isn’t us, but our loved one who is headed for disaster with their lifestyle and health.
Do you love someone who has crossed the line and is no longer just “slightly overweight” or “too thin,” but is now truly unhealthy from poor choices and constant abuse to their body? Do you sit quietly by their side, paralyzed, as they continue to do this every day and worry as they choose poor self-esteem, unhappiness with their weight, major illness, or even worse – death? Are you concerned enough about their well-being to really do something to help?
Ask yourself: Has this loved one ever asked for help with their weight issues, verbally or non-verbally? Have they expressed dissatisfaction with their body, exercise habits, food choices or health? Has this loved one ever passively given me clues that they are crying out for help?
When someone’s hurting, they can’t always say they’re in trouble – they may be too ashamed or too afraid. At times, they might even deny that they need help – or that they asked for it. They may even resent you for bringing up the matter. I am here to tell you that there is a way to reach people without hurting them!
First, you must not allow yourself to stand paralyzed — wanting to help them and not knowing how. If you truly care for someone, you must be willing to take a risk for them. What is this risk? If they are in deep denial and burying the reasons for their unwise habits and dangerous choices, they may walk away from you rather than face the truth. When we hurt inside, we attack our bodies because that is what’s available. Poor lifestyle choices, self-abuse in the form of food and lack of self-care are simply physical manifestations of pain. If your loved one is hurting this much and hurting themselves, you can help them!
There is a healing and non-aggressive way to reach out to others through the art of story-telling. Arm yourself with real success stories, choose a time to talk to your loved one, and begin your conversation with those stories. My own life is a great example and can be found on “About Laura” at: www.LauraFenamore.com or right here at www.OnePinky.com.
Share my success with them – I released 100 pounds and kept it off forever. Tell them that there’s more to it – that I realized I hated myself as much when I was thin as I did when I was overweight. I finally came to see that it is not what we look like on the outside – but how much we love ourselves inside! Only then could I begin the slow and steady path of self-care and self-love. I began to love Laura – and I was able to stop hurting myself as I moved forward and made positive, courageous changes every single day.
Your loved one will probably open up about their own situation, although they may be angry or hurt. But are you more concerned with their well-being than initially offending them? Are you willing to risk losing your loved one for a moment in order to help save their lives forever? If you are, then take the courageous step and begin opening up to them. At the end of that discussion, you can guide them to read my special report at www.OnePinky.com and if that does not resonate with them, there is other help out there. No one is ever alone and I often suggest people start with one small Pinky step that is different from anything they have ever done. Something that will stretch them. Something that will take them out of their comfort zone.
The goal is inner peace and it may not feel comfortable to confront someone who is suffering and yet you may be saving their life.
Puts a nice spin on the season of Light. It is a way to give without spending any money and it is done in the spirit of service.
Happy Holidays Everyone. Stay Healthy and Joyful.
Love, XO
Laura
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