If not now, when? Body Image Mastery

Posted on May 21, 2013 by Laura Fenamore

When I was in my early twenties, I was very cocky & I thought I knew everything.

In reality, I knew very little.

You see, back then my self-esteem was so low that I lived my life trying to prove that I was OK.

I worked tirelessly to “get” the world to show me I was worthy of being alive.

  • Fortunately today I have nothing to prove.
  • People either like me or they don’t.
  • And either way, all is well.

25 years ago I heard 4 simple words that changed my life. Those words are:

“If not now, when?”

You see I was at a point of being totally demoralized, obese, in pain and just embarrassed to be living in my body.

I was ashamed of my size and my being. So when someone told me that I had a choice to change or stay the same, I finally got it.

I was ready.

If not now, when?

What was I waiting for?

An early death?

A painful tortured existence even worse than it already was?

Fortunately, I was able to dig deep and decided:

·  I was done hating myself.
·  Done making others wrong.
·  Done feeling like an outcast.
·  Done with feeling hopeless.
·  Done with torturing myself and my body.
·  Done with overeating.
·  Done with drinking myself to sickness.
·  Done using every excuse as to why I cannot get help or are worthy of help.
·  And…finally, I was done using TIME AND MONEY as my biggest excuses.

One of my friends and mentors, Bill Barren recently sent this to me in regards to discounting prices and I wanted to share his words which touched me deeply.

Bill writes:

I began to see that the ‘discount mindset’ is one of
scarcity, fear and contraction. It discounts the value you
place on things.  And it discounts the talents of the people
and products you are investing into.

When you believe in the value of what you are getting, it is
your belief that sets in motion your access to that value.

So when someone asked me for a discount, I tell them that I
believe in the service I provide. I believe in the results
they will get from working with me. And I invite them to
invest in themselves in a way that honors them and honors
me.

A new student of mine inspired me to record this video. Please watch it.

So while I am totally sympathetic to circumstances where people do not have the resources to pay for my services, I feel I am doing a disservice to myself and to my clients to make things “cheap” to get people in the door. That is not to say that I will not offer promotions, however, I know in my heart that I am worth your investment and so are you.

What kind of price can you put on a healed mind and a body you love?

I am offering a complimentary 30 minute consultation – on How to Release Weight and Gain a New Improved Life to all brave enough to say, I AM DONE with how things are right now. Just like the brave women I talk about in my video above.  

Take a step. We can discuss all your options.  I am not going to talk you into something you do not want. However, I may show you something you never dreamed possible.  All you have to do is take one small action.  Email me here and say, “I am now ready for the free consult.” And I will send you my calendar with times to choose from.

It is that simple.

Suffering for another year or another decade is not necessary. You can get relief with your body with food and the scale.

What do you want your life to look like a year from now and what are your 4 words that will snap your mind into action?

If you cannot find those 4 words for yourself, feel free to use mine, “if not now when?”

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My Body Image Mastery “Swan Song”

Posted on April 30, 2013 by Laura Fenamore

This past year has been an interesting one for me. It started last September by my going to Brazil to see John of God (if you don’t know about this amazing healer, info here). That trip stirred a lot up for me. Although I had dedicated years to inner work, I learned that I have a lot more to work on in myself, what I refer to as “drilling down”  and “excavating” old wounds that are still lingering in the wings. It was kind of exciting and humbling to realize the truth that self-discovery is a life-long process. The experience supported me into a consistent daily meditation practice from which nothing could deter me. In fact, when I got very sick this winter, I took it as an opportunity to go INSIDE and feel out where I am, where I have been and where I am going.

It is all a huge mystery for me. However, one thing that remains true for me is my life purpose. I am here on planet earth during this time to serve and to support women in loving who they see in the mirror.

However, how I do that is changing.

And I feel in my heart that this is the last class (my swan song) of Body Image Mastery that I will teach in this form.

So if you are one of the people who has said:
I am still sitting on the fence,
I will take your next one,
I will do it later on when I have more money –

I suggest you do whatever you need to do to make it happen NOW. Because this class is, my body and heart are telling me, the last one. And I want to be able to share this work with as many of you as I can before I move into the next chapter of my life.

This is my way of calling you out to choose love over pain, joy over suffering and reminding you that nothing will change if nothing changes.

Take a safe risk. I teach self-love through inner peace. I am not out to get anything from you, rather just to give, give, give.
Choose your happiness and health NOW.

Who I am is a truth teller. I want to stand up on the rooftops and call out to all of you women suffering from obesity-related dis-ease and/or poor body image, LOOK UP! HELP IS HERE.

You do not have to suffer for the rest of your life.

I heard about John Of God years ago and something inside me said, YOU MUST GO and see him. I am grateful I listened to that voice. I followed my instinct, I took action for my own benefit, and it paid off big time. In fact, I am going back this fall, this time taking some of my students with me.

If you have had that feeling of “I must do this course,” then there really is no time like the present. Take action for yourself today, and bask in the warmth of discovery that will come with it. I welcome you with open arms.

Action begins here. www.BodyImageMastery.com

XO, Laura

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Honoring Your Voice: Find Happiness in Speaking Up

Posted on April 1, 2013 by Laura Fenamore

Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling. – Margaret Lee Runbeck

Do you ever feel like you’ve cheated yourself – sacrificed your wants, needs and values – by lying about how you feel? Perhaps for someone else’s sake? How often have you wanted to say NO but instead responded with YES to please others?

It might be last-minute babysitting, staying late at work to cover a colleague’s mistake or it could be ignoring your nagging desire to get some exercise on a Saturday afternoon because your partner really wants to see the latest blockbuster.

In our world of dualities, it seems like there is always a choice – yes or no, good or bad, right or wrong – and there is always other people bombarding us with their answers.

So how do you determine your answer?

Find Your Voice

Most likely, you already know your answer; you just haven’t found the courage to own your answer. Maybe you’re confidence is low and so it seems easier just to say what others want to hear. Maybe you’re anxious to tell the world what you think, but you’re afraid of the consequences. Whatever the reason, you’re keeping your opinions quiet, it’s not good enough to silence you.

  • You are the master of your mind, body and soul.
  • You are the decision-maker.
  • Your opinions matter, and you have the right to express them.

Also, don’t confuse your genuine voice with your inner critic. The inner critic is the voice in our heads that tells us we’re not good enough — but that voice is not your true voice. Don’t listen to the voice telling you that you’re not worthy of making decisions or having opinions. Replace those feelings with conviction and esteem. Now you can become a better you — a vocal you.

Make Yourself Heard.

 Now that you know what you believe, share it with others. This may be as simple as sitting down with your boss for a heart-to-heart or sending an email to a larger group of friends addressing an issue or topic you’ve been avoiding bringing up. With the conviction that your voice is worthy of being heard, you can confidently enter the arena to share what you feel. Be your guru. Make your decisions. Honor your voice.

As you do so, remember that honoring your feelings and expressing yourself is not the same thing as being right. Part of speaking up is listening to the response. Being open to others’ opinions and feelings in no way lessens the value of your contribution; if anything, it increases it. Bring your thoughts to the table, but be willing to listen and to knowingly, actively compromise (which isn’t the same thing as giving in).

A Client’s Story

I have a client, I will call her Diane, who went through 2 husbands before she found her voice. She could not ask for what she needed and agreed to anything that either of her husbands wanted. She had totally lost her power. One morning she woke up feeling empty, scared and depressed. She began to notice that she could never ask for what she needed. However, a small voice woke her up and told her that her voice mattered and she mattered. Needless to say, she took action. She left her 2nd husband to embark on her inner journey to find herself and several years later she still is unfolding like a caterpillar into a butterfly feeling freedom to say and ask for what she needs. I am so proud of her because her having a voice already has inspired her daughter and other friends/relatives of hers. One healed being helps others heal as well.

This example is just a snapshot of how one person stands up for herself.

In a world full of voices, how do you find and honor your own?

Do you catch yourself making decisions based on pleasing others, before you ask yourself what you really want and need?

How do you ground yourself when making tough choices?

How do you honor your voice?

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