Day 41 – OnePinky Leads the Body Image Revolution!

Leah honey,

I laughed out loud reading your words….

I love the images you share of your own personal style. I love the butterfly metaphor. Love it all.

Was thinking this morning about judgment and how it does not serve us and then I came home after yoga class to read Tracy’s comment on my blog about feeling judged and how much that can hurt.

As we develop as children, most of us forget who we are…When our self confidence begins to fall, we begin to compare ourselves to others and use judgment as a way to hold us up or knock us down. Boo hoo….

The reason we judge others is because it is code at a very young age to boost us up. ( I realize I am oversimplifying it and yet I see truth in that statement)  Our identity becomes one of  ”human judging machines” without much awareness early on. We become comfortable with that part of us. And then for many of us a day comes when we see the pain it causes more than the love it creates. From that place, the more aware we become,  the quieter the judger becomes. At least that is my experience. The more comfortable I feel in my own skin, the less likely am I to make myself or another wrong. (or judge them).
And yes, I take full responsibility for having judgment about Madonna as her narcissism on the surface (a judgment) is a turn off to me.  I feel free to admit that the part of me who still feels dumb and self centered at times finds it easier to point the finger at her. The irony is that Madonna has in many ways been a role model for me in terms of her drive and ability to reinvent herself and not care what others think. She could be the nicest person on the planet and my judger still does not believe that, the same way that I know that I am not always nice all the time. I do have moments I am not proud of.

I was listening to this women today and she was putting women down who choose plastic surgery. My experience was that she was showing  no compassion, at least it appeared that way.  I actually felt sick in my body as I was standing there listening to her. Her judgment was towards women who choose plastic surgery as a way out,  particularly those who choose breast augmentation to be more attractive for men. I was hovering above her, listening on one hand and feeling a bit uncomfortable. Underneath, I was blessing her and those women. I was listening and aware of all that was going on while listening.

I know plenty of women who choose that route and my love for them does not change. Could they have chosen differently? Of course. Anyone can choose differently and I do not want to put the critical energy out there.

This gal was asking me, and perhaps hoping that my course would help women who choose plastic surgery.  Of course it could,  and who am I to tell anyone that their choices are wrong?

I always say if you choose to go under the knife (as Madonna has) and so many other women have, do it with love rather than guilt and shame. Wear that facelift with pride rather than pain and shame. It sort of deny’s the decision if you hide the choice you make. Make sense?

I hope that something here supports your day today Leah.

Today is my dear friend Hale’s birthday who lives in Sydney. Happy Birthday Hale wherever you are. Sending you love and hugs.

Leah, sending you love and hugs and we get to talk tomorrow!

Yippee!

Learn, Love, Let Go…

And one more thing…like I asked in the forum today?

What do I know for sure?

Today I know for sure that…

I learn from all of you as you learn from me. That the comment on Tracy’s blog post from yesterday was spot on…

That I call forth all Pinky’s to write into Glamour magazine so we can sync up their revolution with our revolution. We all have the same goal, we might as well be a louder force…

That life is so precious and wonderful. And it does not matter how far away you are, we are connected by our heart beats.

I love you,OX

Laura

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