RESOLUTIONS AND SOLUTIONS

“That which one has been desperately, furiously, relentlessly searching for has always been present, exactly where one is.” ~ Gangagi

Happy February! If you’re anything like me, you’re thinking – where did January go?! This is that time of year where those New Year’s resolutions, those promises to yourself to practice self-love through positive self-talk, healthy eating, and exercise may be slipping by the wayside.

And I’m here to say that’s okay! Don’t beat yourself up for getting sidetracked.

But, I’m also here to say – now’s the time to act. It’s not too late. Turn those resolutions into solutions.

The truth is that NOT making decisions is a form of fear. (And in its own way, it is a decision – it is a decision to be paralyzed and avoid risk.) Decisions are scary; it’s that simple. It means that something will change. From the big things, like new jobs and new loves, to the small things, like redecorating – decisions mean that something will change. If you’re on a journey to release excess weight, either for the first time or the hundredth, that decision needs to begin and be empowered by changing your mind. It is time to let go so you can have more self love and inner peace.

Tip #1 You are PERFECT. So how do we begin to fade indecisiveness and CHANGE OUR MINDS? We start with one simple and enormously powerful truth: You are wonderful, right now, exactly as you are. Yes, you may be on a journey to release excess weight (along with thousands of others), but RIGHT THIS MOMENT, you are perfect. How can that be true? How can I be perfect AND need to change? Well that, Virginia, is the miracle. We ALL need to change. It is the human condition. But we are all also perfect. The universe says so. Love says so. We only need to lay doubt and fear aside and see that simple truth to be empowered forward.

Tip #2 Choose and Rechoose. If you’re ready to choose and claim that perfect you and grab the power to move forward, you have to know that it’s a “choose and rechoose” decision. Life will get in your way. It’s that simple. You must be committed to choosing to lay indecision on the side every single morning (and maybe a hundred times a day). You must remove it like an old coat. You must be committed to that ONE action to begin changing your mind.

Use this meditation whenever you need to restart your commitment: Close your eyes and see yourself. You are standing in the room you are in. You are in a heavy old wool coat. It itches your skin. It smells old. It makes you sad. It seems to grow heavier by the moment – so heavy that you know you could not go very far in this coat. You see yourself from the outside and feel that coat around you from the inside. Now slowly, gently, take off the coat. Just lay it on the floor and step away from it. Stretch your arms wide and then toward the sky. Now stand up where you are, in real life, and stretch. You are freed from indecision EVERY time you do this exercise and do ONE thing to move forward (i.e., eat an apple, take a walk, call for support – remember, everything matters – every choice, every action).

Tip #3 Make a Decision to Give and Get Support – NO EXCUSES! Example A) Okay, not everyone can afford a personal body image mentor – but you MIGHT be able to afford a telecourse or a group seminar offered by such an expert. And you can offer something that may even surprise you! Example B) Maybe you can’t afford a gym – but you can probably afford a walking or hiking club (or START one!). Example C) Maybe you can’t find an hour a day to exercise – but you CAN steal three ten or fifteen minute breaks to do squats in the ladies’ room or walk really fast around your block three times. The point is that healing from the inside-out is definitely not one-size-fits-all, but there IS a perfect solution just for you – IF you will lay your fear and paralysis on the side and claim self care.

In America, right now, we have the highest level of overweight people in any place at any time in history. With all the abundance around us, we have made a decision (through indecision) to die. It’s that simple. To either drop dead from complications of obesity or choose to be trapped in the living death that food addiction and eating disorders cause. I do not share this with ANY judgment or arrogance. I have lived that way. And I have lived the way I live now. Believe me, this way is better. Spend a few minutes today and just love yourself. Know that you are perfect and have the ability to transform. So take a few seconds and weigh your options, knowing that help is here right now.

Take the body image checklist if you have not already on the home page, www.OnePinky.com

If not now, when?

I wish your lovable self a healthy, safe, fun, loving February!

I am happy to spend a few minutes answering your questions. Email me, Laura@OnePinky.com to set up a get to know you call.

There is great wisdom in the question,

What age am I being right now?

What am I fixated on and where is this leading me?

If I am afraid to confront someone or something because I feel they will not….like me, hear me, see me, get me, think I am a loser, etc.

For me, it always comes down to fear and inadequacy.

SO WHAT?

My wise woman says to me. She says, Then what?  I feel fear and still stay fixated and afraid? How is that working for me?

I am wise, I am powerful and no matter what age I feel like in the moment, I know that my true age is my wise woman self who is always present, always accessible. I just need to quiet my mind long enough to hear her speak to me.

I welcome what your wise woman has to share with you today.

What does she want to come through?

What does she want to say to you?

What does she want to share with us?

Get quiet and listen. SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

She knows and she loves you….always and unconditonally.

I love you too, XO

Laura

Just notice without fueling the feelings is something I say alot to my groups of students.

Just notice.

Observe your feelings and feel them, knowing they are not you and you are not them.

They come and they go.

I have feelings, I am not my feelings.

I had some strong feelings come up this weekend when every time I logged onto the community site, no one was there. UUUUMMM!

I felt fear, frustration, confusion, overwhelm and then CALM.

All these feelings over a tool…that some people may or may not choose to use…it is all good.

I do want more than anything to provide the best possible tools for women in this community and how that will look, the universe will reveal. As long as I do not get attached to the outcome and what I think is right.

The universe has a way bigger plan that I could have.

Learning, living and loving and letting go…words to live by…

XO, Laura

I came across this gorgeous piece that one of my Pinky’s wrote about her experience working through this course….and I had to share it with the world.

It goes like this….

You are held in my heart always honey! And by the smaller community, 12 week course and larger community, OnePinky.com/c

And you were SO missed on the call.

Today was a great day in so many ways….and then I got news tonight that my dear friend has breast cancer.

We were anxiously awaiting the news all day and I was trying to distract myself and yet it was playing in the background.

I spent a lot of time today on this website. This organization has been a leader in supporting cancer research.  (Also on the site I was silently praying for all the women who have had/have breast cancer and for their loved ones.  On a lighter note, I was supporting and loving the shades and varieties of pink and all that Pink(y) Power!).

Another reason for us all to be aware of how important it is to take care of oneself. Not to say that everyone who gets cancer does not take care of themselves. Let’s face it though, there are a lot of people who are aware of the toll that their body takes on lack of self care…to those women and men, I say, start here, start now, start today, one small Pinky step to self love at a time.

Perhaps this prayer will help. I love it.

Meditation

Earth Mother, star mother,

You who are called by a thousand names,

May all remember

We are cells in your body

And dance together.

You are the grain and the loaf

That sustains us each day,

And as you are patient with our struggles to

learn, so shall we be patient

With ourselves and each other.

We are radiant light and sacred dark

-the balance-

You are the embrace that heartens

And the freedom beyond fear.

Within you we are born,

We grow, live and die -

You bring us around the circle

To rebirth,

Within us you dance

Forever.

~Starhawk, in Earth Prayers

Keep up the great work dear Leah. Stay well and be with it all.

Learn, Live, Let Go and Love

I love you, XO (and treasure you).

Laura