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Week 4 – Happy 2010, Leah and OnePinky Goddesses

Laura Fenamore — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 05:30:20 +0000

Happy New Year!

2010 is going to be a powerful year.

I feel it, I sense it and I own it.

A gift to you all to create a practice before each meal in this New Year.

I think it is a delightful way to start 2010.

With a loving practice for your mealtime.

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Recite before each meal.

This food is a gift from the entire universe.

The land, the sky, the ocean and the work of many people.

May I be the presence that deserves to receive this.

May I learn the right way of eating.

May I receive energy and be protected from illness.

May I walk the path of wisdom and love.

When I eat may I not forget the people who are now suffering from hunger in the world.

In this food, I see the presence of the entire universe supporting me.

-Mayumi Oda

And I offer you this from my heart for 2010.

May you be a guiding light for yourself and others who need protection and love.

May you be a ship to help others cross their ocean.

May you be a bridge for those who cannot find their way.

May you be the natural born leader you are.

May you be love and live love and be the light you already are.

I Love You, XO

Laura

Day 80 – OnePinky Student Shines, Part 2

Laura Fenamore — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 05:54:55 +0000

Drum Roll Please.

The answer is revealed now…Kathleen shares the rest of her story…and how swimming makes her heart sing.

(for those of you who have no idea what I am referring to, go back and read yesterday’s post on Day 70, OnePinky Student Shines, Part 1.

Kathleen went off to her beloved pool and started her swim. It’s her practice to check her watch starting with the first lap so she gets an idea of what kind of pace she’s on. She noticed right off the bat that she was about 2 seconds faster that normal. She then checked her watch at the 6-lap mark and again noticed a lower time than usual. That’s when she thought she might have a very good swim that night. By the time Kathleen made it to the half-mile point, she realized that it was actually possible, if she kept up this pace, and didn’t lose focus, that she could indeed break the 30 minute mark. She swam that last half-mile repeating to herself, “Seize The Day” and “Eyes on the Prize”. When she finally made it to the end and reached up to stop her timer, she was rewarded with the number 29:55. She was proud and happy that she had achieved something that had once seemed so out of reach.

As I said earlier, Kathleen swims mainly for the joy of it. She feels she will never give up swimming again (On her business card, under her name, it says “swimmer”). And that her commitment to it, in spite of the fact that she’s not as fast as she was 20 years ago, rewarded her with a sense of accomplishment that will never go away.

So swim on Kathleen…I am so proud of you. :):)

And to all of us, move today in honor and reverence for our bodies. They matter, they count and they deserve to be moved and stretched.

As I always like to say, we came out of the womb kicking and moving.

The body knew what it wanted and needed right at birth.

Sending you Peace, Love and Movement.

XO, Laura

Day 65 – One Pinky Who Shares Her Heart and Soul

Laura Fenamore — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 04:32:33 +0000

Hey Leah and Pinky’s!

I came across this gorgeous piece that one of my Pinky’s wrote about her experience working through this course….and I had to share it with the world.

It goes like this….

“i have been afraid all of my life.

afraid of failing. afraid of succeeding. afraid of doing too much and not doing enough. afraid of being ugly. afraid of being great. afraid that what i said would be misunderstood – afraid that if i didnt speak i would disappear. i have been afraid to love and desperately in fear of not being lovable. i have wanted to evaporate into the cool wind of indifference and also to be the storm of beligerence that finally set the record straight. i have wanted to live. i have feared dying. i am too fat. i am too thin. i am not smart enough and yet i understand everything. i am too old, i am too young. my heart is broken. there is nothing left. then – i am exhilirated – invigorated – refreshed – ALIVE! There is wind enough for every sail – joy enough for every heart. i am gifted, blessed, the most fortunate girl alive. i am fat. i must be thinner. my arms are too strong……. though i hold one hundred children, they do not lay well against the tireless strain of my skin tight blouse. make me thinner god. run. diet. exercise. fast. give me something – now – anything – to take away this extra bit of me i do not need – this roundness – this flesh. can i have another cookie – maybe ten? i don’t drink i don’t smoke i don’t……….give me sugar give me love give me the light light light is what i need.

these are my thoughts when i am not tapped into the source. when i am not focused on what i am committed to. when i have mistaken myself for something other than the incredible miracle that is my very being. she is me – and yet she is very different than the confident, grateful woman whom i have come to know as myself. it is my tininess. my little fearful self that is a child. that needs a kiss. a hand to hold. one big hug that wraps eternity around me until i am big again. until i can feel the heat that is my heart – beating – drawing me closer to my greatness – letting me be – without the judgement. setting me free.

i chose not to live inside the tiny places of despair where once i made my home. that is no longer me – laying there beside melancholy – victimized by my own shame, with fists full of evidence against the world. i am an opening. a soft place of becoming that is kind and loving and curious. i am willing ever willing to grow and certain that growth will come. i am teachable. i welcome grace.

in my opening – through the small cracks of light that filter around those parts of me that are frightened – lessons come. lessons and teachers and friends and gifts, like so many presents bundled up before me. they come mostly as woman – in all shapes and sizes and socio-economic happenstance. but come they do when i am looking. so, i found laura. and through laura, onepinky. and through onepinky – a sisterhood of triumph – a portal to freedom.

i have taken all the classes I could take. i have read the books. i have attended the seminar and sang the song – chanted the chant and drank the herbs. and then this. a simple gesture. one woman to another – a hand. an ear. some laughter echoed.

to tell you how there is more sunniness in the sun or more green in the forest because i am looking out from within instead of the other way around is to only scratch the surface. you cannot name this. it is a secret. a secret that starts inside like a wee hope – a what if it works? – a prayer. and then, because you trusted it when someone said you could and because you did it when she said you deserve to and because that part of you that is inside – that was always a champion – before even time – knows it, you do. you begin to heal. you begin to shine. you begin to share. then, there is the unspeakable brilliance of letting something go that you never quite knew you were holding onto and, suddenly, your hands are empty – your arms are open – and you are no longer pushing away the great depth of love that is your essence – your light – your tiny, brilliant and beautiful “me” at last in celebration. your gift.

i cannot imagine how to say this any other way. take the course that is yours – here before you – now. be willing to let it work for you. be willing to make it work for you. be willing to be that part of you that knows there is a fight left – that knows there is something worth fighting for – that part of you that is a sister – a friend – someone’s love. you will experience transformation. you will heal. there are too many words to hide it and not enough to reveal – the experience that only you will have when you say “yes” to this door that is opening in front of you. you made it appear. now, lift your head and walk in – we are waiting for you. you are not alone. come.”

This makes my heart sing and my eyes cry every time I read it.

I love it and I am grateful for the beauty of these words…and they must be shared.

Drink them up. And thank you to my Pinky who shares her heart and soul. What a gift to us all.

XO, Laura

Day 58 – Safety Counts Pinky’s Big Time…Read On…

Laura Fenamore — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 01:11:25 +0000

Leah,

Your blog today was incredible.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and heart centered words. I loved it and I love you!

I want to talk a little bit about the issue of trust and safety. Next Tuesday, November 3^rd at 7 pm Pacific time, I will be interviewing Kelly Rudolph, founder of www.positivewomenrock.com, an online community to empower women.

Kelly Rudolph
www.PositiveWomenRock.com
SURVIVE! Self-Defense LLC

Kelly has been a leader in the movement of personal safety. I will be interviewing Kelly and one thing we will be discussing is desperation and neediness and how those things lead to vulnerability which leads to being a target.

If anyone wants to be on the call with Kelly and me live, (it will be recorded) please email me, laura@onepinky.com and I will get you the call in phone number and pin.

I hope many of you will join Kelly and me. She is incredible and committed to women’s safety, empowerment and well being.

The key in life is to self correct. We get up, we fall down, we get up, we may fall down and what do we learn in each situation counts and matters. All leading to the whole picture and staying no matter how many times we fall is the name of the game.

For me, I have a pattern. I trust people because I see the good in them. The universe is constantly knocking on my door saying Laura, you have to be more discerning.

I had an incident happen today where, and unsafe person showed up at my door step, and I almost took the bait. I felt so sorry for this person and wanted to help them and they were dangerous.

Again, I want to believe people are good and they are. However, some of them have illnesses. Mental, emotional and physical illnesses that are way beyond my ability to heal and help. I want to save the world and I know I cannot….I can only serve and help those willing and able to help themselves.

So my personal lesson today is to be more rigorous about checking people out and not be so trusting all the time and follow through with my gut check. It always works. My body always knows. When fear gets in the way, we often become weak and make decisions further away from our truth. I get it God. I am listening. I say we meaning me…and hopefully some of you out there can relate to something being shared here.

Someone just sent me a great email and in it, she wrote, H is for Holy Crap!

Holy Crap, I lovingly learned something profound today, had a powerful OnePinky call, and made it through the day safely and healthy. It was a great day.

I am blessed.

Sending you all love and gratitude as we get closer to November, the month I focus on Gratitude. (I do every day and especially this coming up month!)

Much Love, XO

Laura

Day 44 – OnePinky.com Meets Glamour Magazine

Laura Fenamore — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 03:59:22 +0000

Leah Honey,

Happy over the half way point!

Love your claiming your success. RIGHT ON!

So proud of you!

OK, I am so moved and touched by some of these letters to Glamour, I have to put aside my post today and share what India had to say.

WHOOOAAAA, She is amazing, Ken? Yes in Hebrew…In honor of Leanne who shared her heart out on our Thursday call. She is moving through some major stuff and leaping off of cliffs. I am so proud of her as I am of you.

O.K.

India’s letter to Glamour and more are coming.

“Dear Editor,

When you published your photo of a “real” woman, I jumped at the chance to support your decision to show women of all shapes and sizes! And when you said the word “REVOLUTION”, I knew that I had to write to you! I am a member of One Pinky — Body Image Revolution, the brainchild and creation of Laura Fenamore, a woman with a mission and commitment to empower ALL WOMEN in loving who they are, no matter how they look on the outside. I am a 54 year-old woman that has battled with self-esteem issues and yo-yo dieting my entire life. Not until I met Laura did I realize that it has NOTHING to do with weight or eating, but it has EVERYTHING to do with LOVING YOURSELF from the inside out. Laura’s One Pinky has given me the tools and support to take control of my life and to feel REALLY GOOD about who I truly am!

I wrote in my blog on our site [OnePinky.com], something that pretty much sums up my feelings about Laura and what she is trying to accomplish…

“Who is Laura to us? Have you ever visited an area that you were unfamiliar with? A foreign country, perhaps?

Of course you have. And in preparation for your visit, you probably Goggled hotels or sites or talked with other people about what you might want to see or do. Maybe you even purchased a book to try to learn the language.

And then you go… it’s interesting, a little scary, but all in all, you get around okay and see some cool stuff.

Then you come home and someone says, “Did you see such & such? or Did you eat THERE? or I hope you went to that spot!” and suddenly your trip seems to have missed the mark and you feel a bit discouraged or at least miffed that you missed out on something that could really have helped you to have the trip of a lifetime.

My point is, Laura has been on that journey. She has figured out so much of it. She has marked the pitfalls. She has learned the ins and outs and knows where the locals eat! And she revisits it often and stays on top of it and relishes others experiences and learns from them as well. The journey is into the world of Loving Yourself. It’s a world that we thought we knew (have you been to Barnes & Noble lately?) but it’s a journey that we can be happier and more successful with if we have…

A TOUR GUIDE!

From now on I’ll picture Laura with a name tag that says, “Hello, I’m Laura” and giggle to myself when I imagine her saying, “We’re walking, we’re walking… No flash photography please.” Because until now, I thought I really had a handle on this foreign country business… but now I know that I did need an interpreter and a guide to really have a wonderful, creative experience!”

If you want a pioneer for your Revolution, Laura is someone that you need to know!

Most Sincerely Yours,

India Redman

Cerro, New Mexico”

To send your email, go to www.glamour.com, Contact Us, and then “You Said it! Comments And Questions!” Just add your comments right into their format and off it goes..directly to them! I just sent mine and feel GREAT about putting something out there that might reach other women who are suffering.

email: letters@glamour.com

fax: 212-286-6922.

Leah, thank you for allowing me to use the blog to share this moving testament. India and so many of you have sent letters that speak from your heart. I am touched and honored.

Keep up your great work Leah. Your weight release, time management, Live Trading Account…all great work…

You are living your life full out, learning, leading (through your leadership) and letting go.

A winning combination.

Miss you gal, feels like forever since we spoke. :) We must do that soon.

XO, Laura

Day 32 – Big Girl Crys and Aloha is Here To Stay!

Laura Fenamore — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 03:15:50 +0000

Leah Honey,

HOW WAS THE MOVIE?

Did you go see it? I hope you loved it. Tell Mum hello from me.

And I can picture you and Taylah building your sand castle, all the details of that….seems relaxing and rewarding and a in the moment activity. You know? Was it fun for you?

Don’t you love what Julie had to share on her blog in the community? I saw what you wrote to her, how great. I am so proud of you Julie! (and I hope many more Pinky’s go share in her joy and her photos of her kids who are quite the lookers, those boys are gorgeous! and so is their Mum!) I bet we could fix one up with Taylah. Me being silly who is a little beauty too.

My day was a rollercoaster Leah. This class I am taking, well to say it is bringing up stuff is the understatement of the year. I had a minor meltdown today in class over stuff that I am sure comes natural for you Leah. Numbers and graphs and charts and math….My dear teacher kept saying, “Laura, don’t cry”. I just adore her and she means well and it is not always easy for people to deal with others tears and yet I just needed to cry…

Big girls do cry sometimes…and it is all part of my letting go of my deep inadequacies of not being a math, equation, #’s person. Again, all part of my journey and I am working through it “one pinky step at a time”.

May seem I cry a lot and I think it all in balance. I am not afraid to share about my meltdowns as I am human too.

Rita Hovakimian, someone I adore and look up to sent this message in her email and I wanted to share it with you Leah (and with the world).

I love Hawaii, it is near and dear to my heart….

“Bless everyone and everything that represents what you want!

To bless something means to give recognition or emphasis to a positive quality, characteristic or condition, with the intent that what is recognized or emphasized will increase, endure or come into being. This is one of the tenets of the Aloha philosophy.

The Aloha Philosophy:

1. IKE-The World Is What You Think It Is

2. KALA-There Are No Limits

3. MAKIA- Energy Flows Where Attention Goes

4. MANAWA-Now Is The Moment Of Power

5. ALOHA-To Love Is To Be Happy With

6. MANA-All Power Comes From Within

7. PONO-Effectiveness Is The Measure Of Truth

The Aloha Philosophy immediately reminds me of the Law of Attraction principles.
A law that states that what you focus upon expands……what you appreciate, appreciates! It delights me to see that these principles are universal, yet articulated in their unique way.”

Enjoy the words. Love you a ton.

Learn, Love and Let go,

XO,

Laura

Day 9 – Body Image Mastery – Owning Pink! Being Willing to Look Foolish

Laura Fenamore — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 22:57:36 +0000

Leah,

Hey gal,

Here we are on 09 09 09, Kim’s Birthday. Funny comedy of errors yesterday with me thinking it was your birthday.

Hope you are feeling better today.

So much to say, so little time. Had my first day of class, it was great and have a ton of work to complete. So made this video hello today and using the video as my message today…

Know your healing is in my heart and I am sending you a ton of love down under gal.

Sending you love and support!

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Talk soon.

XO, Laura