While I do not teach in terms of winners and losers, because I do not view people as losers, I know firsthand that those who succeed in my 12 week program or any program are those who STAY through the ups and downs.

And those who have humility, ask for help, show vulnerability, lean into their daily practices and view change as a process rather than a means to an end. As I share with my students, a process, not a pill.

Jack Canfield, a great teacher and mentor of mine teaches many success principles and I felt compelled to share these 9 with you this week on success which can be applied to anything you are working on right now.

1. Nearly all extraordinary people have the ability to bond with others (i.e. being involved and part of this community of powerful Pinky women).  Without lasting bonds with people, any success or excellence is hollow.

2. Highly effective people have moral fiber. Others trust them. They have a sense of what is good – for others and themselves.

3. Winners surround themselves with good people and learn from them. Just look at the example left by a number of famous people. Many, from George Harrison to Hillary Clinton, crawled up the ladder of success on the back of someone else.

4. Successful people work on themselves and never quit! While the “over-night wonders” become arrogant and quickly disappear, really successful people work on their personality, their leadership skills, management skills, and every other detail of life. When a relationship or business deal goes sour, they assume they can learn from it and they expect to do better next time. Successful people don’t tolerate flaws; they fix them!

5. Successful people are extraordinarily creative. They go around asking, “Why not?” They see new combinations, new possibilities, new opportunities and challenges where others see problems or limitations. They wake up in the middle of the night yelling, “I’ve got it!” They ask for advice, try things out, consult experts and amateurs, always looking for a better, faster, cheaper solution. Successful people create stuff!

6. Successful people are masters of communication. What they all have in common is an ability to communicate a vision that energizes other people and themselves. Communication requires listening. Those who listen to the people around them can understand them better. Shared understandings are what makes communication effective.

7. Determination is a powerful habit. Winners never give up.

8. Winners are not tapped in the past. They move on. They look for new opportunities, new successes. At the same time, they realize that always living in the future can slow us down as much as always looking behind. The unsuccessful are often too focused on what is ahead and never seem content. The successful understand that what is going on now is just as important as what they are planning for the future.

9. Successful people take criticism well as they see the value. Criticism shows that people believe in your ability to do better.

One of my dear students here at www.OnePinky.com is blogging weekly at http://www.NoDietingAllowed.com and her blog this week is on her new found “awareness” and how it feels to be in the world, awake to what shows up. Check it out at www.NoDietingAllowed.com.

I can tell you first hand that Leah and so many of the women in this community are living these principles Jack speaks of organically. They are showing up for themselves first and then for one another and it is truly transformational. Collectively, we are taking small Pinky Steps to becoming healthier human being.

The planet needs us.

Love to you All,

Laura

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Leah,

Your blog today was incredible.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and heart centered words.  I loved it and I love you!

I want to talk a little bit about the issue of trust and safety.  Next Tuesday, November 3rd at 7 pm Pacific time, I will be interviewing Kelly Rudolph, founder of www.positivewomenrock.com, an online community to empower women.

Kelly Rudolph
www.PositiveWomenRock.com
SURVIVE! Self-Defense LLC

Kelly has been a leader in the movement of personal safety.  I will be interviewing Kelly and one thing we will be discussing is desperation and neediness and how those things lead to vulnerability which leads to being a target.

If anyone wants to be on the call with Kelly and me live, (it will be recorded) please email me, laura@onepinky.com and I will get you the call in phone number and pin.

I hope many of you will join Kelly and me.  She is incredible and committed to women’s safety, empowerment and well being.

The key in life is to self correct. We get up, we fall down, we get up, we may fall down and what do we learn in each situation counts and matters. All leading to the whole picture and staying no matter how many times we fall is the name of the game.

For me, I have a pattern. I trust people because I see the good in them. The universe is constantly knocking on my door saying Laura, you have to be more discerning.

I had an incident happen today where, and unsafe person showed up at my door step, and I almost took the bait. I felt so sorry for this person and wanted to help them and they were dangerous.

Again, I want to believe people are good and they are. However, some of them have illnesses. Mental, emotional and physical illnesses that are way beyond my ability to heal and help. I want to save the world and I know I cannot….I can only serve and help those willing and able to help themselves.

So my personal lesson today is to be more rigorous about checking people out and not be so trusting all the time and follow through with my gut check. It always works. My body always knows. When fear gets in the way, we often become weak and make decisions further away from our truth. I get it God. I am listening. I say we meaning me…and hopefully some of you out there can relate to something being shared here.

Someone just sent me a great email and in it, she wrote, H is for Holy Crap!

Holy Crap, I lovingly learned something profound today, had a powerful OnePinky call, and made it through the day safely and healthy. It was a great day.

I am blessed.

Sending you all love and gratitude as we get closer to November, the month I focus on Gratitude. (I do every day and especially this coming up month!)

Much Love, XO

Laura

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Dear Leah,

It was so lovely to hear your voice your truth…your stick-to-it-ness. Your progress, your strength and even your vulnerability that is coming through in your writing.

It is so much a part of this work….the key is to stay and be with it all. Where else do you go? Into the food? into the victim? into the ____________

Pain is part of this…being in the darkness and actually being with it will bring forth the light. It will. If we can stand and be with it…it will transform itself Leah….so let those overwhelming feelings just be…and notice them being and through them and in them…comes the light….

I was first guided to share about food and then this loud voice just popped in and guided me to share our weekly call ground principles which really Leah, can be applied to our whole life.

Ground principles. These principles go out to all our Pinky’s who choose to be on the calls and the community at large. Something for everyone to receive…

~ #1 principle is no one gets to be wrong here. There is no right and wrong way to do anything.

~I ask that you be on time for the calls and give me 24 hours notice and let me know ahead of time if you have to miss (show up for yourself no matter how great or not so great you feel, you can always turn a cloud into the sun and….when you are in a sunny place you can be there for someone in the dark clouds).

~Your Pinky Power Partner…Please read the guidelines I sent to you if you have not already done so and reach out to your power partner  when you get assigned one and if you do not hear from her, I need to know. (the OnePinky community is full of power partners whether you have one yet or not, don’t you agree Leah?)

~We hold what is shared here confidential and that stays within the confines of the group (keep your word to the safety and sacredness of this group or any group you are a part of, trust begins by feeling safe)

~I ask that you keep your judgment out, as much as you can remember to do that and keep your heart open. It is no accident that you are here (this speaks for itself)

~ Please mute your phone if you must be around noise but what I really want is for you to give yourself this time in a quiet space all to yourself and not multi task during this phone time (this could be translated into muting our ego…our gremlin, that nasty critic!)

~I also ask that we all do our best to respect others when they are speaking and wait your turn to share. I invite you to all share from your heart, this is safe loving space (this too speaks for itself).

~FULL Participation is always welcomed AND so are questions from you.

Leah, till we meet on the call next week, let’s make a commitment to holding space for those who feel pain and resistance in doing this work that they will notice a shift from the darkness to the light.

Live, Learn and Let Go.

I Love You, XO

Laura

P.S. How is exercise and food plan going for you today?

Receive that question with love and mute any critical voices, AGREE?

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